Forgiveness And Reconciliation – Coursework Example

Forgiveness and Reconciliation For a reconciling conversation, the first and foremost thing that one needs to control is personal ego. Ego hinders reconciliation. Reconciliation requires an individual to gain the confidence of the other person. The other person should be made to feel that one is not trying to impose one’s opinion on the other. Instead, one should try to support one’s opinion with rational reasoning. It may not be necessary to spare personal opinion in order to gain other’s consent. Through use of sweet language and accent and adequate reasoning, personal views can be made convincing and appealing.
Self-forgiveness is essentially an attempt by an individual to start living life in an ethical way. It is a lifestyle free from hypocrisy and conforms to the maximum standards of humanity. Self-forgiveness is difficult because it requires us to compromise upon our wishes and humanly desires. Self-forgiveness requires us to forgive others. “Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions” (Jampolsky cited in DeGraffenreid, 2011).
Three elements that I found most significant in this course were the principles of reconciliation, self-forgiveness and effective communication.
This course has helped me inculcate some very positive changes in my conflict approach. I have stopped arguing with people for the sake of my ego. Now, when I have a conflict with someone, I do not wait for him/her to come to me and apologize. Instead, I apologize whether or not I feel my mistake.
DeGraffenreid, C. (2011). Self-Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance. Retrieved from